Porn Parenting

Today it hit the news that the government along with a few major ISP’s will be asking people to opt in if they want to access adult content on their networks. This is apparently to protect children. Now I am all for protecting children, for there are some things on the internet that it would be wholly inappropriate for a child to see. I understand how keeping porn away from kids can be difficult, especially as celebrities who made their name performing for children, Vanessa Hudgens and Lindsay Lohan to name but two, just can’t keep their clothes on when the camera comes out, and they have movies/songs to sell.

There is also another website http://www.parentport.org.uk which allows parents to complain about content in all types of media. Again I can see the logic, after all if little Johnny sees anything in the newspaper that is violent “monkey see monkey do” and you wouldn’t want that, so why not complain.

Now I’ve been positive for too long:-

Lets say I’m a parent who opts in for porn. (Hey give me a break it’s been a long week and she always has a headache.) Now I can access porn on my laptop. My boy Barry a thirteen year old, has a iMac in his room and he because I have not set up any parental controls can also access porn. My hypothetical youngest, Fred who at 7 has not discovered the delights that an “awesome rack” can bring is quite happy playing games on his PS3. I let him play unsupervised and Barry told me the Grand Theft Auto IV: The Ballad of Gay Tony was an excellent game, so Fred often plays.

We are all watching TV. It’s Strictly (Dancing with the Stars, US People) Fred is watching intently as the girls spin around showing an awful lot of leg. Fred then tells great Aunt Mabel that all the girls on TV look like “Motherfucking Hoes” I am mortified, I reach for my laptop straight away I must complain on Parent Port about the short dresses on Strictly. I won’t say anything to Fred because I am so embarrassed. Those girls making him talk like that.I have no idea where he got this language from.

The initiatives are missing the point. Teenagers will look at porn, younger kids will stumble upon it. The Daily Mail will complain about sex and then show a picture of Beyoncé’s arse.

Children need to be protected, the internet is like the outside world, there are bits of it I feel uncomfortable in. Top tips:-

  • Talk to your kids about internet content and media generally
  • Don’t sign your nine year old up for Facebook, Facebooks own terms state 13 years old, even then think about it.
  • Don’t put pictures of kids on Facebook. (Unpopular, but what you are effectively doing is letting strangers stare at your children, which you wouldn’t do in real life)
  • Most important… if something offends you or your family on TV or the Internet turn it off. I’ll repeat that… TURN IT OFF. Teach your kids this and they will self censor. Or at least be aware they are in control.

I am sick of a world that brings in more regulations to protect people who can’t be bothered to try and look after themselves. We control the content we and our kids absorb, we control what we eat, drink, or smoke. There are parental controls on every computer, if there are Mac users who don’t know how to set these up I’ll show you, as will the guys at every single Apple Store. Failing that, use the internet together. Regulate chat usage (Skype etc) usage, check log files, protect your family online as you would in real life.

Hows about an “Opt In” on responsibility and communication?

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Porn Parenting

2 thoughts on “Porn Parenting

  1. Absolutely fantastic and true! I really agree an, youre correct that we have the power to restrict/switch off and so should use that rather then moan about what is shown.

    It’s so important to see the hypersexualisation in society, and that it is all around us, and not to pick and choose which we become indignant about, when in reality 99% of it has an effect upon the youth, and culminates in a range of social ills.

    Great Post!

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